Thinking Habits that work well.
The way that we feel is directly a consequence of how we interpret the world
around us with our thoughts. I believe it is a very proactive effort toward
finding happiness to re-program our thoughts with the following ways of
thinking. Use one section at a time. Read it and really think about what it
means. Memorize it. I post a different one each week on my bathroom mirror. When
I get to the last one, I start over from the beginning.
Everybody Doesn't Have To Love Me
Not everybody has to love me, or even like me. I don't necessarily like
everybody I know, so why should everybody else like me? I enjoy being liked and
being loved but if somebody doesn't like me, I will still be OK. and still feel
like I am an OK. person. I can't "make" somebody like me any more than someone
can get me to like them. I don't need approval all the time. If someone does not
approve of me, I will still be OK.
It Is OK To Make Mistakes
It is OK. to make a mistake. Making mistakes is something we all do, and I am
still a fine and worthwhile person when I make a mistake. There is no reason for
me to get upset when I make a mistake. I am trying and if I make a mistake, I am
going to continue trying. I can handle making a mistake. It is OK. for others to
make mistakes too. I will accept mistakes in myself and also mistakes that
Other People Are OK And I Am OK
People who do things I don't like are not necessarily bad people. They should
not necessarily be punished just because I don't like what they do or did. There
is no reason why another person should be the way I want them to be; and there
is no reason why I should be the way somebody else wants me to be. People will
be whatever they want to be, and I will be whatever I want to be. I cannot
control other people, or change them. They are who they are; we all deserve
basic respect and reasonable treatment.
I Don't Have To Control Things
I will survive if things are different than what I want them to be. I can
accept things the way they are, accept people the way they are, and accept
myself the way I am. There in no reason to get upset if I can't change things to
fit my idea of how they ought to be. There is no reason why I should have to
like everything. Even if I don't like it, I can live with it.
I Am Responsible For My Day
I am responsible for how I feel and for what I do. Nobody can make me feel
anything. If I have a rotten day, I am the one who allowed it to be that way. If
I have a great day, I am the one who deserves credit for being positive. It is
not the responsibility of other people to change so that I can feel better. I am
the one who is in charge of my life.
I Can Handle It When Things Go Wrong
I don't need to watch out for things to go wrong. Things usually go just fine
and when they don't, I can handle it. I don't have to waste my energy worrying.
The sky won't fall in; things will be OK.
It Is Important To Try
I can. Even though I may be faced with difficult tasks, it is better to try
than to avoid them. Avoiding a task does not give me any opportunities for
success or joy, but trying does. Things worth having are worth the effort. I
might not be able to do everything, but I can do something.
I Am Capable
I don't need someone else to take care of my problems. I am capable. I can
take care of myself. I can make decisions for myself. I can think for myself. I
don't have to depend on somebody else to take care of me.
I Can Change
I can change. I don't have to be a certain way because of what has happened
in the past. Everyday is a new day. It's silly to think I can't help being the
way I am. Of course I can.
Other People Are Capable
I can't solve other people's problems for them. I don't have to take on other
people's problems as if they were my own. I don't need to change other people,
or fix up their lives. They are capable and can take care of themselves, and can
solve their own problems. I can care and be of some help, but I can't do
everything for them.
I Can Be Flexible
There is more than one way to do something. More than one person has good
ideas that will work. There is no one and only best way. Everybody has ideas
that are worthwhile. Some may make more sense to me than others but everyone's
ideas are worthwhile, and everyone has something worthwhile to contribute.