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||NONVERBAL TRIADS : RECOGNITION AND CONGRUENCE
- To learn to recognise and identify
nonverbal assertive, nonassertive, and aggressive
- To practice giving specific
feedback on nonverbal behaviour.
- To develop congruence between
verbal assertive message and accompanying
From twelve to twenty-eight
Time Required :
One and one-half to two hours.
Blank paper and a pencil for
- The facilitator announces the
goals of the experience, gives a short lecturette
on nonverbal and verbal congruence, and asks
participants to form three to four groups of four
groups of four to seven members each. Paper and a
pencil are give to each group.
- Each group is told to choose an
assertive situation (Samples may be given) and to
develop a verbal assertive response to that
situation. When the groups are ready, the
facilitator gives the following instructions:
"You have twenty minutes to develop three
role plays based on the situation your group has
chosen. You must use the same or similar verbal
response in each of the three role plays, but
portray different nonverbal behaviour in each.
One role play is to show, non-verbally, an
assertive response to the situation, a
nonassertive response, and an aggressive
response. The same person may play the central
role three times, or roles can be rotated, giving
more participants a chance to receive feedback on
their nonverbal behaviours. Although all members
of a group do not have to act in the role play,
each member should be actively involved in the
development of the role play and the coaching of
those playing the roles".
- The facilitator asks participants
to form one large group. Each groups role
plays are presented in random order, with no
announcement of which is intended to demonstrate
assertive, nonassertive, or aggressive behaviour.
After each of the three role plays, the
facilitator leads a discussion of the types of
nonverbal response (nonassertive, assertive,
aggressive) identified by the observing
participants, and the specific nonverbal
behaviours that prompted that identification The
group then reveals which type of response the
role play was intended to portray. The
facilitator leads a brief discussion of any other
observed behaviours that portrayed a particular
response and of other behaviours that might have
been included to make the portrayal more clear.
(Thirty to forty minutes).
- The facilitator announces that
techniques for accurately identifying and
expressing nonverbal behaviours will be practiced
on a more personal and individual level now and
asks each participant to choose an assertive
situation that he or she would like to work on
and to develop an assertive verbal response to
- The facilitator asks participant
to form groups of three and gives these
"Each participant is to repeat his or her
verbal assertive response three times, each time
using a different accompanying nonverbal response
(nonassertive, assertive,aggressive). The
response are to be presented n random order,
without announcing which nonverbal behaviour is
being portrayed. After each response, the other
two members of each group are to identify the
response they thought was being portrayed and
describe the specific behaviours that led them to
their conclusions. The person practicing the
behaviours then revels which of the three
behaviours he or she was attempting to portray.
Group members may discuss which behaviours seemed
congruent with that response and what might have
been added to make the response even more
congruent. If a specific response was not
correctly identified, the participant may wish to
practice his or her response again". (Ten to
- The facilitator asks the groups to
report on their experiences and leads a general
discussion of ways that participants can practice
the skills of nonverbal assertion and congruence.
- The role plays and practice can be
done without words, as "silent movies."
if participants wish to concentrate more heavily
on body postures and facial expression.
- Instead of practicing responses to
actual situations, participants can practice Step
V using a sample list of assertive statements,
for example :
No, I dont want to go a movie tonight, but
thank you for inviting me.
Its my turn to be waited on next.
I like your direct way of talking to me.