and Child Molesters: The Slaughter of Innocence
If You Suspect
not talk yourself out of your own suspicions.
people will convince themselves that they are not seeing what
they are seeing. Feelings of self-denial are often supported by
the strong denials of the suspect. These denials will be
accompanied by expressions of shock, outrage and even indignation
that he could even be suspected of such conduct. He will
frequently make partial admissions or comments such as: “I
was only bathing her!” or “I was just hugging her, I
love her you know?” He will deny that his behavior
consisted of any sexual intent. The suspect will sometimes enlist
the support of friends and colleagues who will attest to his
sincerity and reputation. This pattern is typical especially
among preferential child molesters. If you think an adult, friend
or relative, is paying an excessive amount of attention on your
young child or any child, be cautious. Talk over your suspicions
with your spouse or someone you trust. Above all make inquires to
your child. You will notice some behavioral changes in a child
who is being actively abused. These changes may include:
sudden and unexpected change in a child’s traditional
or she complains of frequent nightmares.
new fear of a place where the child has visited before or a new
fear of a person that he knows and has been in contact with. Be
very suspicious if your child demonstrates this behavior.
new awareness of sex related words, genitals or drawings of
from psychological changes, look for physical signs of abuse such
as anal or genital redness, bleeding or any type of suspicious
injury to or near a child’s genitals. But keep in mind that
the overwhelming majority of child sex abuse cases do not include
a visible physical injury. There can be many reasons that an
injury will not occur in a sex abuse case. There may be no force
involved, the abuse may not include the child’s genitals or
penetration may never have been accomplished. The abuse may be
oral or consist of only touching. This is why molesters, when
caught, will frequently encourage police to have the victim
medically examined. They know there is no visible injury to
substantiate the charge. They believe that a medical examination
will support their claims of innocence. Never underestimate
the cleverness of these people. But the astute investigator knows
that the absence of an injury does not settle the matter, nor
does it prove conclusively that abuse did not take place.
that children who are being sexually abused are experiencing
conflicting and painful emotions that they cannot sort out or
understand. But this does not mean the situation can’t be
verbalized. Children are more resilient than we give them credit
for and the children that recover the best from sexual abuse are
the ones whose parents took a pro-active response to the
situation. We can only do that by arming ourselves with the tools
of knowledge and vigilance. It is up to us, the caretakers of
children, guardians of their safety and their dreams, to assume
control, cast off the ominous shadow of sexual abuse and bring
their nightmare to an end.
are many ways to seek and obtain help:
you are not alone. There are many dedicated people and
organizations that fight child sexual assault and the threat of
Internet pornography every day. Visit these sites with your
children. They include:
promotes child safety and abuse prevention methods.
is a website that warns adults and children of the threat of
pornography on the web.
is one of the oldest web sites in existence that works in
conjunction with law enforcement to combat pornography and child
seducing on the Internet.
is the home for Inside
a wealth of information regarding children and Internet access.
is the home for the Internet Crimes Against Children Task Force
in the State of New York
provides hundreds of links to a wide array of police agencies in
every state in America. No matter where you live, you will find a
police agency close to home.